Thursday, November 21, 2013

Motherhood: Feeling Inadequate

Alma 26:12 "Yea, I know that I am anothing; as to my strength I am weak; therefore I will bnot boast of myself, but I will cboast of my God, for in his dstrength I can do all ethings; yea, behold, many mighty miracles we have wrought in this land, for which we will praise his name forever."

As a mom, and I still consider myself a new mom, I feel inadequate just about every day.  I have a hard time being patient with myself as I learn the skills I am learning to be a good mom.  For some reason, I think I should just come hardwired with all these things, but you learn them as you go.  I was thinking about it in the shower this morning and realized I have only been doing this job for a year.  It takes time to learn new things. 

I read this verse this morning and I realized for the millionth time where my strength comes from and where I can look for help in my difficulties.  I love this message Elder Holland gives to mothers.

That message comes from this talk.  A young mother, writing to Elder Holland and quoted in this talk said this,

"Maybe it is precisely our inability and anxiousness that urge us to reach out to Him and enhance His ability to reach back to us. Maybe He secretly hopes we will be anxious,” she said, “and will plead for His help. Then, I believe, He can teach these children directly, through us, but with no resistance offered. I like that idea,” she concludes. “It gives me hope. If I can be right before my Father in Heaven, perhaps His guidance to our children can be unimpeded. Maybe then it can be His work and His glory in a very literal sense.” 

I tend to think of it as a weakness to rely on others for help, but he says, "Rely on Him, rely on Him heavily."  I will try to do just that. 


selvageedge said...

I am so grateful to know that He does have our back. I think that most of us often feel inadequate, partially because alone, we often are. Thank you for sharing your thoughts and Elder Holland's.

Stacy Crawford said...

Not that raising two kids makes you an expert, but one lesson I had to learn over and over was these are not just my children. The powers of heaven make all things possible. Cherish each new lesson learned as before you know it, they are grown and graduating. Enjoy the snuggles because they are one of the first things that leave.