Sunday, October 27, 2019

Miles' upcoming casting and surgery

Miles was born with club feet and a diagnosis/categorization called "Arthrogryposis," which means multiple joint contractures.  His wrists and hands are also affected by his Arthrogryposis.  He underwent serial casting (new set of casts weekly where they slowly stretch his feet) and then a double tenotomy (cutting the achilles tendons) when he was 9 weeks old, which is a pretty standard procedure for treating club feet.  He has done pretty well since then and has walked with AFOs (orthotics) since he was 20 months old.  Unfortunately we have noticed regression in the last couple years and have been talking to his doctor in Akron about what to do and had a second opinion in Cincinnati about what to do, all while waiting to see a doctor in Philadelphia who has specialized in Arthrogryposis, Dr. VanBosse at Philadelphia Shriners hospital.  We have been on that waiting list for two years.  Finally we were able to see him for the first time in June.  He recommends serial casting and a double tenotomy, the same procedure Miles underwent as a baby.  He says that no matter how the feet are treated (read: even if you do everything right, you'll still have regression), they will go back to how they were when he was born, but as he gets older, there will be more time in between regressions, and eventually they hold, they stay and you don't have to keep doing it.  I am SO glad we finally got to see this doctor and we didn't go with other opinions.  In April we were getting impatient and thinking we needed to just move on and see someone else, which was when we scheduled appointments with Cincinnati Children's hospital.  The day I got home from our first appointments in Cincinnati, Philadelphia Shriners called us with an appointment in June.  Just to put things in perspective, these are the different recommendations each of the doctors had for Miles:
Akron-remove a small wedge from each of Miles' tibias
Cincinnati-remove the talus from each ankle and tilt the calcaneus
Philadelphia Shriners-serial casting and double tenotomy
The casting will be long-leg casts that come above his knees, and usually they bend the knees in his casts so they can't come off, so he will be in a wheelchair from November 1st until probably mid-January.  We'll do the first set of casts in Philadelphia this next weekend, do the casts in November and December in Cincinnati, and then assuming casting is going well, he will have the surgery on December 18th in Philadelphia.  
I'm not too worried about the procedure itself.  I do anticipate that life will be pretty different with Miles in a wheelchair.  There will be adjustments that we will need to make and some things we haven't thought of yet.  I worry about how Miles will adjust to being in a wheelchair.  Through all of this I think the greatest blessing is the encouragement President Ballard gave a few years ago for us to counsel together as families.  Counseling as a couple, with Miles, and as a family has made the most difference in hopefully achieving a good outcome for Miles.  

https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/study/ensign/2016/05/saturday-afternoon-session/family-councils?lang=eng

Saturday, September 28, 2019

Baby Girl Mathatas, coming February 2020!

It's been a while since I have blogged, as in like 4 years.  But let's be honest, it's been a while since any of us have blogged, or read a blog, or even thought the word "blog." I have no idea if anyone will ever read this but I have felt lately like blogging would be good.  It's like journaling which really helps me emotionally.  Since I last blogged we had a baby boy, Thomas, in April 2018.  I had a miscarriage in March 2019 and we were really lucky to get pregnant right after that and are now expecting a little girl in February 2020.  We had our 20 week ultrasound this past week.  I was honestly going to be happy with either a girl or a boy.  I thought having a girl would be exciting but too much to expect.  Each time I have gone to that 20 week ultrasound I have gotten the gender I was kinda hoping for.  It's surprising to me and probably obnoxious to many others.  I was thinking about it this morning and how Heavenly Father answers our prayers in different ways to teach us different things.  I don't know where I heard this but I have heard:

He answers:
Yes-to give us confidence
No-to correct our course
Withholds an answer-to help us grow. 

So maybe Heavenly Father is trying to strengthen my confidence in the fact that He loves me, maybe I sometimes do know what's best for me.  I don't know.  There are probably a million reasons we are having a girl now and only a few have to do with me.

More than anything, it was so reassuring to have them do the full anatomy scan and see that everything is as it should be.  Perfect little feet and hands, heart, brain, etc.  What a huge blessing, considering the miscarriage (with three ultrasounds and nothing that really looked much like a baby), the things our other kids have had, and their cousin Ethan, who was born with HLHS.