Sunday, October 27, 2013

October


Since writing last my sister Laura and her husband had a little boy, Ethan, who was born and passed away on September 30th.  If you don't know about them, you can read about him and see more pictures on their blog.  I would like to write about a million things about this experience, but what I will say is that it was such a privilege to be there for his birth, and to be able to be there for his funeral.  It has reminded me how precious life is, how lucky we are to understand the Plan of Salvation, how sustaining the Gospel of Jesus Christ can be, and just to be grateful.  There's so much around us to be grateful for, and so often I look at what I don't have, instead of what I do.  Ethan, we love you!  You will forever be in our hearts and your cousins will know who you are and what your parent's did to give you the best possible chance at life, and they will know about your life, even though it was short. 

I LOVE pictures of Mom seeing baby for the first time.  I think it is the most amazing moment to be able to capture, and Laura has a picture like that.  I love it.  It makes me cry every time I see a picture like this.  There is no way to describe in words how beautiful it is, the expression on Mom's face.  I want to create some kind of book full of pictures of Mom seeing baby for the first time. 

 
 
After I got back from Colorado, we closed on our house and moved in the very same day.  We are slowly getting unpacked, still have some to do.  I would like to take pictures of it now that we live here, probably after this week.  I have unrealistic expectations about how all our stuff and ourselves and our habits have all magically become perfect since we moved into this perfect house, but somehow that didn't happen.  But it is still a beautiful house and actually I kind of like all our imperfect, unmatching furniture, and who can live without putting things on their refrigerator?  I can't, and I won't.  Pictures to follow. 
 
 
James and I have callings, we are Primary workers, working with the Sunbeams together. 
 
One of Miles' first haircuts, Colorado, August 2013
Visiting Grandma Ruth at the train station in Denver, August 2013
Miles' First Rockies' Game, September 2013
At the Park in Ashland, September 2013, I'm not sure why I have a carharrts (warm) sweatshirt on and Miles has short sleeves...oh, well. 
Ready for Church, er, um, Applebees?  Miles favorite toy is looking inside my purse.  September 2013
Picking out a pumpkin at the pumpkin patch, October 2013, with his Brutus hat
Ashland County Fair, September 2013






Pumpkin Picture October 2013


As a snowboarder for Halloween, 2013



Wednesday, September 18, 2013

Our First Few Days in Ohio

If only I had some pictures to go with all these experiences, dang it!  Miles and I got here last Saturday, September 7th.  James and I promptly began looking at houses and we found a cute little house near downtown Ashland, very well kept and in our price range.  So we put in an offer and it was accepted outright.  Awesome!  We thought we were going to have to do some negotiating.  We've had our inspection and have our loan, so I think we just need an appraisal still.  We are probably going to be closing somewhere around October 10th.  There are a few electrical issues (which I think is a ghost, :)) that need further inspection, but otherwise the inspection went well.  I love this house and I can't believe I'm gonna get to live in it.  The kitchen is beautiful and it has an office with a door for James to work from home.  It also has a buckeye tree out front, which James says is a good omen.  :)

The Ashland County Fair is in town and guess who's already been twice?  Last night we went to the Easton Corbin concert, which was very good.  We also had some deep-fried oreos.  DELICIOUS!  Today I took Miles to see the animals.  I'm not sure what I expected him to do, but he didn't show a lot of expression at seeing them.  Just kind of watched.  Oh, well.  It was fun.  My favorite display was "vegetable oddities."  I have pictures, but my camera cord is in storage. 

Our ward has been very nice and very welcoming.  We've had dinner with some members and there's a softball game tonight and a Relief Society activity tomorrow night. 

There are two farmer's markets here, one on Wednesday and the other on Saturday.  Most of the fruits and vegetables sold are from Amish farms.  We've had some green beans, rhubarb, corn-on-the-cob, potatoes and peppers from the farmer's markets, all have been really good! 

The library here is great, they have lots of programs for moms and kids.  We signed up for the baby laptime group, which starts next week.  Now that I think about it, Miles is not really a "laptime" kind of baby, but we'll see how it goes.  I met a friend at the library with a little 4 month old boy and we've had a playdate and a weekly playdate set up for the future.

We've had lots of other fun experiences, including trying to find things in our storage unit, helping James' dad put a roof on their new garage, and driving up near Cleveland to go to Costco. 

Am I homesick?  Of course.  I almost teared up today in the livestock pavilion when I told the guy we had moved from Colorado and he said, "Oh, you're FAR from home!"  BUT, I know that here is starting to feel like home and it will get easier as time goes by and we make more friends here.  Having our own place will help a lot.  And I'm starting to think where precisely you live matters less than what you do in your family and how you live.  I sure can't wait to see all my stuff again, though :). 

Friday, August 2, 2013

Family Pictures and what's going on with us

 
We sold our condo in Aurora, are living with my parents and are planning to move to Ohio in about a month, to be closer to James' family.


 
Raspberry!


 
Blue Steel

 
My favorite

 
Miles did GREAT!  Such a ham!

Monday, May 13, 2013

Makin' Friends

Anyone sick of baby pictures yet?  I will try and post about something other than Miles soon.  I just send pictures to family once a month so it's easy just to do the blog while I'm at it. 

With Paige.  Aren't her curlers adorable?  I think Miles thinks so, too.  It's hard to say what Paige thinks of Miles...

Chatting it up with Gwen.  "Oh, me?  Yeah, I come here a lot."

Between the white one and Cooper, Cooper is his favorite.


Hanging out with Lucas.

His best friend (besides me, of course) is his dad.

Saturday, April 27, 2013

Hands that Work

I was thinking on my run this morning about the partnership we have with God in raising children.  He did most of the work already.  He created Miles’ spirit, he gave James and I the capacity to create mortal bodies.  I don’t think Heavenly Father intended to pass off the rest of the work on us or expected us to do it alone.  He wants us to be partners with Him in learning how to raise Miles, how to teach him the right and how to best help him succeed in mortality. 

 
1 week old.  At rest, he wanted his hands like this.

I guess the reason I was thinking about this is, I was pushing his stroller and realized my hand is able to direct the whole stroller, and what an amazing thing and blessing it is to have hands that work.  One of my greatest desires is to give Miles hands that work.  Heavenly Father knew Miles would have hands like he has.  It wasn’t a mistake.  He is allowing James and I to be in partnership with Him in getting him the rest of the way.  There have got to be a million reasons why Miles was given the hands he was.  I think of all the things I learn from having weaknesses and the strength that comes from lessons learned.  Miles has had lots of good care from lots of good people.  I get advice for how to help him from his Occupational Therapist/Hand Specialist, his Physical Therapist, the doctor who does his feet and is also a hand specialist.  The problem is that there are too many things we can do.  I’m trying to do them all and I realize I’m frustrated because I don’t know which is most important, which is going to help him the most.  And besides that I want him to have balance.  I don’t want to be in his face all the time, I want him to have time to explore his hands independently and just to play independently for gosh sake.  So I’m starting to seek for more divine help in this area.  Heavenly Father and Jesus Christ know what is going to help him the most.  Not even the best PT knows as much about hands and more specifically, Miles’ hands as his Creator.  Nor does anyone know his future besides our Father in Heaven.  I am so grateful for the blessing of having a great Partner.
We've come a long way, still have a ways to go.
And while functional hands is a very great blessing, there are things that are infinitely more important than that.  We are entrusted to teach Miles right from wrong, how to be a good person, how to be a good citizen.  We are to teach him the purpose of life, the gospel of Jesus Christ, how to be happy, how to overcome difficulties, prepare him for life.  It’s so fortunate we have help from extended family, and to be members of the Church; to have other people who also teach and lead our children.  But I think the most important kind of help is from our Father in Heaven.  Why wouldn’t you want the help of someone who knows everything?      
I’ve noticed if I’m seeking it He will give me help in the form of ideas.  Ideas that don’t come from me.  Things that never would’ve occurred to me.  I know because all of the sudden I’ll think of something and it will come out of nowhere.  It happened last Sunday.  I was sitting there with Miles in Church and all of the sudden I thought “Massage!  Duh!  The muscles are tight, they need help relaxing.  Duh!”  I had never even thought of that, even though my neighbor has told me about her infant massage class.  And Miles is almost 6 months old, never thought of it.  There are lots of things like that which happen every day, if I remember to be humble and seek His help.

Saturday, April 13, 2013

April


April 2013

We are having a good month!  5 months old today, I can’t believe how fast he’s growing.  Miles is using his hands more and more, holding onto objects and trying so hard to get things in his mouth but it’s still hard for him because of lack of flexibility in his wrists.  His elbows and shoulders are responding well to the stretches we’ve been doing with him.  His wrists are definitely better and he’s bending his fingers and holding onto objects.  Today he was sticking his fingers in Lucas’ (our neighbors’ baby’s) mouth.  It’s a start!




We continue to love his new club foot doctor, Dr. Benson.  She is doing a very nice job with his casts and we’re hoping we’ll get him back in his brace in the next couple weeks, and hoping he won’t need another tenotomy.  She is a very personable doctor and it doesn’t hurt that she adores Miles.  He has all the ladies in the office captivated. 
First park visit and first time wearing his hat

James had two interviews for a supervisor position this month.  He didn’t get the job, but it’s promising that he was considered for the position.  He has been busy getting the young men ready for their Scout Auction next weekend and serving as the Young Men’s President in our ward.

Christy has been busy taking care of Miles, starting to get back into running and is doing some sewing.  She’s enjoying being a stay-at-home mom and is exploring the frontiers (frontiers for her, at least) of homemade baby food, physical therapy with Miles, diaper blowouts and “Play Groups.”

The scratch on his forehead is from the Velcro on one of his splints.  It's exciting because it means his shoulders are a lot more flexible.

Tuesday, March 26, 2013

Oh, man, it has been a little while...


Mustache March

March Madness

In Like a Lion, Out Like a Lamb

March
 

It has been a pretty busy month, with ups and downs.  Miles was in his brace for the first part of the month, but when we went to follow-up on the brace (1 month later) he had lost some of the correction in his right foot, so he has gone back to casts for the past few weeks.  We’re kind of bummed about that, but it’s better to do it right NOW then to try and fix it when he’s older and his soft tissues aren’t as soft and he may need surgery.  Because he has arthogryposis in his hands, it means his feet are a little more complex than someone born with just club feet and no other congenital deformities, which means he’s more likely to have trouble taking correction.  His muscles want to pull him back to the position his feet were in when he was born.  Back to casts, which means no exercises, sponge baths, no socks, no need for footless pajamas, we’re more used to this.  There’s good things and bad things.  I do miss the real baths, I think he does, too.  But it’s really a short time, and we’re grateful he’s getting the right care, and that they care so much that he gets nice feet.

We weren’t super thrilled with his doctor who is treating his club feet.  She is kind of rushed all the time, and quick to make assessments, sometimes without even taking his PT’s opinion into consideration.  She’s started talking about doing another tenotomy, which is the surgery where they cut his Achilles, which he already had.  We had heard about another doctor in the area was the best, and had tried to get in with her originally, but she wasn’t able to fit him in within two weeks of birth, which gives you the most chance of success, so we went to the one we’ve been seeing since his first appointment.  There was a lot of things that we thought could be better, and hey, we’re paying for this, so we might as well try and get the best care possible, so we switched to the one who is supposed to be the best.  There are a few subtle differences, and some not so subtle, that just make me feel a lot more comfortable.  I just felt like it was a little haphazard before.  This new doctor is a lot better and she is also a hand specialist, which is awesome.  The course of events may be the same with this doctor as it would have been with the other one, but I just feel better knowing we did all we can, and I’d rather go to the doctor who seems to be more precise, takes her time, and is willing to answer all your questions.  She also tolerates baby’s crying a lot better, which is a good attribute to have in that profession.  She also uses less padding underneath the casting material so she has more control over the position of the foot. 
 

He continues to see an Occupation Therapist/Hand Specialist for his hands, which are looking beautiful, and has started seeing a Physical Therapist for his gross motor skills.  I really like his OT and PT, they have been awesome, and we’re seeing lots of good things with his development.
Watching "Duck Dynasty" with Dad on a snowy day
 

He’s started clasping his hands together at midline, and he’s getting them into his mouth more.  He’s started to grab onto things and holds them for a little while.  He has a lot more control over where his hands are going.  When his casts are off he likes to touch his knees and he’s rolling onto his sides.  He’s getting better at “tummy time,” and spends more time than he did before.  Usually tummy time ends because he’s frustrated with trying to get his hands into his mouth.  His motor skills are about a 3 month old level (he’s 4 ½ months).
Playing cards with Grandma
 

 He is talking up a storm, and has discovered shrieking this week.  You would think he’s upset by listening to him, but then you look at his face and you can tell he’s enjoying listening to himself.  Especially when he’s around people that are talking, he wants to join in, too.  He’s also started sticking his tongue out when he cries, what a weirdo J.  He is getting a little personality and we’re getting to know him a lot better.  He loves to look at himself in the mirror.  Sometimes he smiles at himself and quickly looks away, so I turn around and he’ll repeat it, it’s super cute. 
Pre-Walk

Post-Walk

It's nice to look back and realize how far we've come.  I loved him then and I love him now.  We want to give him the best opportunities we can.  Love you, Miles!